A Ceremony of Farewell
The liturgies, celebrations, ceremonies, prayers, and reflections offered on this blog are the result of my thoughts, reflections, and experiences, woven together using my own words and sometimes adapting the words others have used:
I am indebted to their wisdom.
Please note that the Rites of Passage liturgies are offered as templates,
and should be adapted as appropriate for your particular gathering.
This ceremony of farewell is appropriate for use by any group of people,
or by any individual, saying good bye to a loved one who has died.
Everyone is invited to join in saying the words in
large bold type.
Music
as we arrive:
Opening
Words (from
Ecclesiastes 3):
For
everything there is a season,
and
a time for every purpose under heaven:
a
time to be born and a time to die;
a
time to mourn and a time to dance.
We
meet here today because N has died and
the life we shared with her has come to an end. This is a time of
loss and sadness, but it can also be a time of thankfulness, as we
remember N’s life and all she means to us and shared with us. Death
does not bring to an end N’s influence, nor the love and respect in
which she is held: these will continue to be powerful for as long as
she is remembered. The sadness and pain that we feel is because N has
crossed over the boundary between the life God gives us in this world
and the new life beyond death, which lies beyond our seeing, our
hearing, or our imagining; and we cannot cross that threshold to be
with N, and all those whom we love, until our own time comes.
Prayer:
Creator
God, Lord of life and death,
you
renew our inner strength, you touch our imaginations,
you enable us to find meaning in all life’s changing circumstances.
you enable us to find meaning in all life’s changing circumstances.
Embrace
us in our uncertainties, and lift our hope, as we
ask for your blessing on our ceremony of thanksgiving and honouring
the life of N.
Our
hearts are grieving because N, whom we love, has died.
Her
death reminds us that our lives are brief
and
will one day come to an end.
We
are thankful for those who cared for N
with
wisdom, skill, love and patience;
and
we ask that those who are sick or hurt may find healing,
those
who are in distress be comforted,
and
those who are grieving be given strength.
Give
courage to all who mourn.
Comfort
them when their pain seems unrelenting
and
help us to offer support and comfort,
to
know when to speak and when to be silent.
As
we remember N
with gratitude and celebrate her life,
we
also give thanks to God for all whom we love
who
have passed from our sight.
Grant
us, gracious Lord, the sense that we remain united with them,
until
at last we all come home to you.
Amen.
Hymn/song:
Reading/s:
Remembering
with Thanksgiving:
Let
us affirm and celebrate N’s journey through life, with
all its realities:
A
tribute/tributes may be given
Whoever
wishes to light a candle in thanksgiving for N's life
is
invited to do so now, and as we do so,
let
us gather our thoughts and feelings about her,
and
silently say those words we always wanted to say to her.
Silence
is kept as candles are lit
To
love someone is to risk the pain of parting,
and
not to love is never to have lived:
N,
we honour your life, we accept your departure,
and
we cherish your memory.
Eternal
God, hear us, as in our thoughts, and with these candles,
we
remember and give thanks for N:
Thank
you for giving her to us,
for everything she achieved during
her life, by your grace,
and for the (special
characteristics e.g. warmth, tenderness, humour...)
which she embodied.
We
praise you that for N all suffering and sorrow are ended,
death
itself is past, and she lives for ever in your love and care.
In
the midst of sorrow we boldly affirm our faith
that
there is nothing in all creation that can separate us from your love.
We
praise you for your precious gift of life, for giving N to be with
us,
and
for the journey we have shared with her on earth.
Help
us to release N as she journeys on,
confident
that death is a crossing over
into
new and richer experiences of your love and grace.
Bring
us bright memories of N, to keep the fires of love for her alive.
Open
our hearts, to let our tears and our love flow,
bringing
us healing and renewal;
and grant us strength as
we remember the strengths and wisdoms of N,
who
is embraced for ever in your love.
While
we live N will not be forgotten;
in
your eternal love, she will never be lost.
May
our memories of her enrich our lives;
may
the good things of her life leave a trace on earth,
and
may your keeping of her glorify your heaven. Amen.
Hymn/Song:
Releasing
in Hope:
All
matter originated in the burst of heat and light
which
created our galaxy billions of years ago.
We
are made of the same stuff
as
the stars, the planets, and this earth itself,
which
we know in this life as our home.
And
so, in grief at N's death, but in gratitude for her life,
and
for the privilege of sharing it with her,
we
commit N's body to the elements from which we all came,
earth
to earth, ashes to ashes, star-dust to star-dust;
and
we commit her being to all that is eternal.
God
who gives us life, and in whose arms we die,
we
entrust N to your safe keeping.
Receive
N as one of your own, and may she rest,
free
from illusion, pain or regret, for ever in your peace.
Amen.
The
Closing Words:
Eternal
God, who unites as one the people on earth
and
the company of your heavenly kingdom,
may
we know and rejoice that we are within your community of saints,
both
the living and the dead.
May
we praise you with our lives,
as
the angels praise you in heaven.
Cheer
us with the hope of your eternal life,
support
us with the knowledge of your love,
and
bring us all home to you at last.
The
peace and the blessing of God
be
with you all, now and for evermore.
Amen.
Music
as we leave:
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