A
Ceremony of Farewell to a Child
The
liturgies, celebrations, ceremonies, prayers, and reflections offered
on this blog are the result of my thoughts, reflections, and
experiences, woven together using my own words and sometimes adapting
the words others have used:
I am indebted to their wisdom.
Please
note that the Rites of Passage liturgies are offered as templates,
and should be adapted as appropriate for your particular gathering.
This ceremony of farewell is appropriate for use by
any group of people,
or by any individual, saying good bye to a
beloved child who has died.
Everyone
is invited to join in saying the words in large
bold
type.
Music
as we arrive:
Opening
Words:
We
meet here today because N has died and the little time we shared
with her has come to an end. This is a time of parting and sadness,
but it is also a time to give thanks for all that N means to us and
shared with us, and to console one another in her loss. Death marks
for all of us the boundary between the life God gives in this world
and the new life beyond death. We stand here on that boundary, which
N has stepped over, but we believe will be re-united with her, and
with all our loved ones when our own time comes.
Prayer:
Creator
God, Lord of life and death,
help
us to find meaning in all life’s changing circumstances.
Embrace
us in our uncertainties, and lift our hope,
as
we ask for your blessing on our ceremony of thanksgiving for N,
and
in our parting from her.
Our
hearts are grieving, because N, whom we love, has died.
We
remember before you those who lovingly
cared
for N and ministered to her needs…
Give
courage to all who mourn, especially…
Comfort
them when their pain seems unrelenting,
and
help us to offer support and solace,
and
to know when to speak and when to be silent.
We
give thanks for N’s life with us,
and
for all whom we love who have passed from our sight.
Help
us know that we remain united with them,
until
at last we all come home to you.
Amen.
Hymn/song:
Reading/s:
There
is a place prepared for little children,
those
we once lived for, those we deeply mourn,
those
who from play, from learning, and from laughter, cruelly were torn.
There
is a place where hands which held ours tightly
now
are released beyond all hurt and fear,
healed
by that love which also feels our sorrow, tear after tear.
There
is a place where all the lost potential
yields
its full promise, finds its lost intent;
silenced
no more, young voices echo freely as they were meant.
There
is a place where God will hear our questions,
suffer
our anger, share our speechless grief,
gently
repair the innocence of loving and of belief.
Jesus,
who bids us be like little children,
shields
those our arms are yearning to embrace.
God
will ensure that all are reunited.
There
is a place.
Remembering
with Thanksgiving:
Let
us affirm and celebrate N’s brief journey with us through this
life:
A
tribute/tributes may be given
Whoever
wishes to light a candle in thanksgiving for N's life
is
invited to do so now.
As
the candles are lit, let us gather our thoughts and feelings about
her,
and
silently say those words we wanted to say to her
but
never had the chance.
Prayer:
Eternal
God, hear us, as in our thoughts, and with these candles,
we
give thanks for N, and for the time she was with us here on earth.
Thank
you for giving N to us;
thank
you for everything we were able to give her,
to
receive from her, and to share with her.
We
praise you that for N all suffering is ended, death itself is past,
and
she lives for ever in your love and care.
Grant
us bright memories of our beloved N,
keep
the fires of our love for her alive,
and
open our hearts, so that our love and our tears flow,
to
bring healing and renewal.
Amen.
Hymn/Song:
Releasing
in Hope:
All
matter originated in the burst of heat and light
which
created our universe billions of years ago.
We
are made of the same stuff as the stars, the planets,
and
this earth itself, which we know in this life as our home.
And
so, in grief at N's death, but in gratitude for her life,
and
for the privilege of sharing it with her,
we
commit N's body to the elements from which we all came,
earth
to earth, ashes to ashes, star-dust to star-dust;
and
we commit her being to all that is eternal.
Silence
is kept
God
who gives us life, and in whose arms we die,
we
entrust N to your safe keeping.
Help
us to release N as she journeys beyond us,
in
the faith that that nothing in all creation
can
ever separate us from each other within your love.
Receive
N as one of your own, and may she rest for ever in your peace.
Amen.
Parting
words:
Into
the freedom of wind and sunshine:
We
let you go.
Into
the dance of the stars and the planets:
We let you go.
Into
the wind’s breath and the hands of the star maker:
We
let you go.
Closing
Words:
Eternal
God, who unites as one the people on earth
and
the company of your heavenly kingdom,
may
we know and rejoice that we are within your community of saints,
both
the living and the dead.
May
we praise you with our lives, as the angels praise you in heaven.
Cheer
us with the hope of your eternal life,
support
us with the knowledge of your love,
and
bring us all home to you at last.
And
may the peace and the blessing of God
be
with us all, now and for evermore.
Amen.
Music
as we leave:
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